Happy Valentine's/Galentine's Day!
Every year this weekend rolls around and I tell myself, maybe it's time to write a newsletter about love. Most years, I have attempted and failed. (I somehow managed it in 2018.) Writing about love in my opinion is hard. It is hard because part of me has this protective wall up and on the other hand, I don’t want to come across as this pathetically cheesy mess. However, I think after spending the past year in lockdown, I haven’t just learned lessons about love (love in all forms, not just romantic) - but the things I thought I knew about love have been cemented.
Arguably the biggest lesson I’ve learned is that I didn’t value space and missing my person as much as I should have before lockdown. When I would go out with my girlfriends for dinner or brunch or have a meeting away from my husband, it would provide some much needed space that we all need from our partners to have healthy functioning relationships. I miss getting texts from my husband asking how my meeting went, followed by a text that says 'I miss you' or/and 'Get home safe.' Or when I’ve gone out, I miss the text or quick call saying he’ll pick me up from the station so I don’t have to walk home alone. I miss missing him, and I think that is something everyone can relate to. There is a sense of romance that lockdown has taken from our relationships and the part of romance that has been taken is seeing your person after a long day and feeling those feelings of safety, warmth, and a renewed sense of familiarity.