Sheila* still can’t pinpoint the exact moment when things with her partner, E*, took a turn for the worse. They had met on Tinder, and when Sheila stumbled upon his dating profile, E came across as the epitome of the ideal partner. His profile was littered with pictures of dogs and cats, hiking escapades with his friends, and a few occasional office selfies. Before long, the two had hit it off and began dating.

For most of their first year together, there were no obvious warning signs. He helped around the house without being prodded, sporadically planned dates which he always paid for and seemed emotionally present – a trait most of Sheila’s previous boyfriends hadn’t possessed. E was even planning to go back to school to increase his chances of getting a promotion at work.